Disconnection

flinched as I watched one unaware person coax/persuade/bully their friend/parent/adult child into joining them on the Dance Floor. Id been sitting close enough to hear the conversation leading to the physical manipulation.

I heard the request, and the no. Then the coaxing, the shaming, the bulling, the humiliation and even the threat. Then the grabbing of the shoulder, squeezing of then hand, 'playfully' pulling of the arm to get them out of the chair onto the dance floor.

 The refusal losing its power, the body weakening as it begins to shut down, dysregulate and disconnect from the situation. This is the opposite of flight/fight. This is not freeze. This is fawning.

Either way it's disconnection.

So painful to watch. 

What would you do?

May we each learn how to stay fully connected to ourselves fully so that we have awareness enough to respect and treat ourselves and others kindly.

Jan 2022